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Love and Making It is about to start a new season Hey, my friend! It's time for us to start something new together.  At one point or another you've read the blog, seen me speak live, or taken an ecourse and I want to THANK YOU for that. Thank you for joining me here. Thank you for being brave enough to even start reading and thinking about how to make your life better, braver, and more beautiful ... even IN bed.  This [...]

By | February 5th, 2015|Choosing In, Choosing Out|0 Comments

Feel alive

quick thoughts…to help you get in the mood for love… Great sex - great physical love - makes us feel alive. It is our soul's current dwelling in a body that, in fact, makes us ALIVE.  Really see your Beloved tonight. See them and remember how precious these days are together. Breathing. Touching. Moving. Don't waste it. See your Beloved with fresh eyes of hungry, vibrant gratitude. -N      

By | October 13th, 2014|Choosing In|1 Comment

Open to me

I was asleep but my heart was awake. A voice! My beloved was knocking: ‘Open to me, my love, my darling, My dove, my perfect one! For my head is drenched with dew, My locks with the damp of the night.’ “I have taken off my dress, How can I put it on again? I have washed my feet, How can I dirty them again? “My beloved extended his hand through the opening, And my feelings were aroused for him. “I arose to open to my beloved; [...]

By | October 12th, 2014|Choosing In|6 Comments

Naked Whispering Gallery

Designed by Sir Christopher Wren and built near 1700, St. Paul's Cathedral in London is a glorious piece of history and architecture.  Even more than that, it has a famous architectural anomaly halfway up the majestic dome. Have you ever heard of a whispering gallery? The first one ever discovered is still in St. Paul's Cathedral. If you climb the 257 stairs from the cathedral floor to the whispering gallery, you are met with a surprising intimacy even Sir Christopher Wren [...]

By | October 10th, 2014|Choosing In|3 Comments

Just Do It

This post is NOT for those who struggle in a relationship that is manipulative or abusive. This post is NOT meant to support the 1000's of years of oppression women have endured as property or servants. It is meant as a reminder that in a healthy, mutual relationship... sometimes we need to be reminded to put on our gym shoes and get motivated. ***** If you love your husband but just can't find the motivation or desire to have sex or initiate [...]

By | October 9th, 2014|Choosing In|3 Comments

How to keep a marriage

What lights a relationship on fire?  What keeps it going after fifteen years? What sets butterflies to flight in your stomach when your eyes make contact? What keeps your bodies magnetized so that the pull towards each other never weakens? The obvious answer is mutual attraction, but what is that exactly? How do we stay mutually attracted?  What's the answer to "How to keep a marriage magnetized?"   People are not permanent magnets. We do not just naturally hold onto our [...]

By | October 8th, 2014|Uncategorized|5 Comments

With my body I thee worship

I closed my eyes and spoke to you in 100 silent ways. - Rumi   Using sex as a way to temporarily satiate a craving is like gulping a fine wine or perfectly-aged scotch to quench your thirst, and then wondering why you are still thirsty and your throat has started burning.   When we are quiet and settled, we notice the profound stirrings simple physical touches wake in us: fingers intertwined, lips kissing the inside of a wrist, the bump [...]

By | October 7th, 2014|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Tickets to the sex show

As far as I know, you are not having sex so other people can watch. You do not sell tickets to the sex show in your home.  You are not trying for any awards. The camera is not panning across your taught abdomen as your spouse's equally taught abs slowly lower onto you, the light languid but grateful in its luck at caressing your skin.   When you have sex, it is not for an audience.   So, why do we [...]

By | October 6th, 2014|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Push up Bra

Has anyone ever accidentally grabbed or brushed against your breasts? (That is, if you have breasts... if you don't, have you ever accidentally grabbed or fondled or brushed against someone else's breasts?) It's happened to most everyone at some point or another.  You are in some close space and people are moving around.  Breasts stick out and hands or arms often accidentally brush against those soft bumpers.  The second after it happens, when it registers in everyone's minds that breasts have been [...]

By | October 4th, 2014|Uncategorized|2 Comments

In the Biblical Sense

Yada. Yada. Yada. I've got a little sexy etymology for you.  Ready?   And Adam knew [yada] Eve, his wife; and she conceived. Genesis 4:1   Yada is not just a fill-in word like blah-blah-blah. It's the original nudge-nudge, wink-wink. I "know" him.  Yada Yada Yada. Ever see that Seinfeld episode where they start using "yada, yada, yada" to fill in the details in a story instead of saying what really happened? George asks if you can "yada, yada, yada" [...]

By | October 3rd, 2014|Uncategorized|9 Comments
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