For the beautiful women choosing out of having intercourse and focusing on their own healthy sensuality.

To My Girls

I am the mom of two tween girls. It feels like we are standing at the bottom of a steep cliff, we have no choice but to climb, and all I see when I look up are sharp rocks and wild monkeys throwing poop. I am also a full-time pastor. At work, I don't just bring my heart, I also bring strategy and goals so that the people in my church will grow in leadership, spirit, and health. But when [...]

By | May 10th, 2017|Choosing Out|0 Comments

Get over it

Those are words I hate. Get over it.   They undermine every molecule of my being - my ENFP personality. Empathy. Therapy. Conversation. Process.  These are priceless values that bring humanity and love to every relationship. Basically, my friend, you would almost never hear me say “Get Over It.” Until NOW. If there is something in your way, GET OVER IT. Maybe it's my age. Maybe it's how much I want us all to be the vibrant, powerful creatures I [...]

By | October 13th, 2015|Choosing In, Choosing Out|0 Comments

Pique Your Curiosity

"The soul is like a wild animal — tough, resilient, savvy, self-sufficient, and yet exceedingly shy. If we want to see a wild animal, the last thing we should do is to go crashing through the woods, shouting for the creature to come out. But if we are willing to walk quietly into the woods and sit silently for an hour or two at the base of a tree, the creature we are waiting for may well emerge, and out [...]

By | October 7th, 2015|Choosing In, Choosing Out|0 Comments

Good night’s sleep

Let's get a good night's sleep, shall we? There are endless tips about how to do this, but here are two things you can do anytime to help relax.   Our minds are so much more capable of self-care than we realize. Relaxing and focusing in on certain parts of your body will tell other systems to let down their own guard and rest. We all need rest. There are small things you can do even at work... even while [...]

By | October 4th, 2015|Choosing In, Choosing Out|0 Comments

CS Lewis Said Something

C.S. Lewis famously said, “You do not have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.” But he never said that. Go. Look. Read. CS Lewis did not say you are a soul and have a body. And it’s not true anyway. You do not have a soul. You are a soul. AND You do not have a body. You are a body. You are all the parts of you.  Human flourishing depends on us being completely whole soul-body-beings. [...]

By | October 1st, 2015|Choosing In, Choosing Out|1 Comment

Where I am

  Hi Friends! Welcome. Take a slow, deep breath. Count to 4 as you inhale. Hold all that breath in your lungs as you count to 4 again. Then, when you are ready, breathe out slowly and fully. ***** Welcome to this space. It is as much yours as it is mine. May it be a rest when you need it + a kick in the butt when you need that too. All these tiny pixels, created by fingers on keys, [...]

By | October 1st, 2015|Choosing In, Choosing Out|1 Comment


What is a Passional? It is a letter from me to you combining PASSION + SPIRIT. Part devotional. Part sex-therapist session. Part drinks with a best friend. ***** In a world full of demands and expectations around beauty and sexuality, a Passional is freedom and exploration. When you receive your weekly Passional, you will know I have been thinking about how to bring more Bravery + Beauty + Freedom to your life in bed and out. ***** It's all about [...]

By | February 20th, 2015|Choosing In, Choosing Out|0 Comments

Passionals Newsletter Sign Up Now

Love and Making It is about to start a new season Hey, my friend! It's time for us to start something new together.  At one point or another you've read the blog, seen me speak live, or taken an ecourse and I want to THANK YOU for that. Thank you for joining me here. Thank you for being brave enough to even start reading and thinking about how to make your life better, braver, and more beautiful ... even IN bed.  This [...]

By | February 5th, 2015|Choosing In, Choosing Out|0 Comments
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