Sex is like a soufflé Sex is like a souffle. A souffle is complicated and unique. It is difficult to get it to finish well. It takes preparation and forethought. You cannot be distracted or have your mind on something else while you are cooking a souffle. Use just the right ingredients at just the right temperatures. Beat and whip, but not too much. Fold and test until everything is perfect.  Practice. Know your oven and test the temperature. Keep trying. It's [...]

By | February 26th, 2014|Uncategorized|7 Comments

When the First Bud Blooms

  Today is Anais Nin's 111th Birthday. Let's celebrate with some of her revolutionary words about living a hot, free, brave, beautiful life!   ***** “You live like this, sheltered, in a delicate world, and you believe you are living. Then you read a book… or you take a trip… and you discover that you are not living, that you are hibernating. The symptoms of hibernating are easily detectable: first, restlessness. The second symptom (when hibernating becomes dangerous and might [...]

By | February 21st, 2014|Uncategorized|1 Comment

Never Been More Satisfied

Love and Making It - the eCourse currently at full speed - is changing my life more than I thought possible because it is changing the lives of the women who took a giant step of bravery and signed up.  We are asking hard questions and connecting with our spouses. We are cheering for each other, praying for each other, and laughing HARD with each other. Most of all, though, people are finding hope. "My husband has never felt so [...]

By | February 5th, 2014|Uncategorized|3 Comments

Are you a Red Panda or a Firefox?

photo from (   Do you know what this animal is called? The scientific name: Ailurus fulgens   In most zoos these animals are labelled as "Red Panda" or "Cat-Bear". Red Panda... this name conjures up certain images in our heads.  Images of cuddles and fur, cuteness and sweetness, like the best pet you will never have.  You'd definitely offer to hug a Red Panda.  I'd build a tree in my bedroom just to have Red Pandas sleep [...]

By | January 31st, 2014|Uncategorized|10 Comments

Please Forgive Me

I need to ask my body for forgiveness.   As I finalize the plan for our "Love and Making It" course, I've been more aware of my body. I've noticed that I tend to see my body as separate from "me". There's ME and then there's this body I am inside that has been connected to ME by nerves and ligaments, like I am in a sci-fi movie and have been assigned this body. Do you think of yourself in [...]

By | January 23rd, 2014|Uncategorized|6 Comments

Own Something Beautiful

Beautiful. I fought that word. Beautiful. We wrestled and she broke open. Her guts spilling everywhere. I never meant to break her, I just wanted to own her. Own something beautiful. Breaking Beautiful turned out to be the best thing that could have happened to me. God is like that. He takes the broken things and says, “Now that’s better.” At the age of 30, I finally broke open my idea of how Beautiful was allowed to look and be.  [...]

By | January 22nd, 2014|Uncategorized|1 Comment

Birthday Suit

You are a masterpiece, my friend. Body and Soul. Even in your birthday suit. It's my birthday so I get to say whatever I want. You are a masterpiece. “Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;     you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!     Body and soul, I am marvelously made!     I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out,     you know every bone in my body; You know exactly [...]

By | January 21st, 2014|Uncategorized|0 Comments

New eCourse for Valentine’s Day

Love and Making It: Valentine's Day Edition An online course in feeling more beautiful and brave {in bed} ***** CLASS IS NOW CLOSED. A NEW CLASS WILL START IN THE SPRING. EMAIL 1000STRANDS@GMAIL.COM FOR MORE INFORMATION. Love and Making It - Valentine's Day Edition 28 Days to more Beauty and Freedom {in bed} Then, don't forget to email to let me know you are in! *****   We think we have to love our bodies in order to really [...]

By | January 17th, 2014|Uncategorized|8 Comments

What if you were allowed to feel beautiful in bed?

Through the first season of Love and Making it, I discovered one important thing and it is this... most Christian women do not fully enjoy having sex.  Whether it's our body image, past purity lessons, exhaustion, cultural messages, or a plethora of other issues, we have a hard time enjoying our sex lives to the fullest. This is an immediate problem and one we need to address. Not only for our husbands but for our own lives.  Don't give up [...]

By | January 15th, 2014|Uncategorized|13 Comments

Never Been Kissed

Advent. We wait. We wait for God to come down here and be with us. Just hurry up and be with us. Yesterday, I felt it, that dull discomfort of waiting for things to be RIGHT - To feel God with me and to feel Him making all things comes together for Good.  I wanted it, bad.   This incredible waiting that is called LIFE drives some of us mad.  We get short burst of fun, joy, beauty, and meaning [...]

By | December 23rd, 2013|Uncategorized|5 Comments
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