This is Intimacy

What is this life?! My guest today in the Love and Making It: Holiday Edition series is my one-and-only sister, Robin Chancer. She might be taller than me (I mean, who isn't?!) but she will always be my little sister.  You can trust Robin to look at life with both practical and deeply emotional insights.  Her post reminds me of one of my favorite Tyler Knott Gregson's Typerwriter Series poems (as if I could have a favorite in that series!!)   [...]

By | December 12th, 2013|Uncategorized|4 Comments


It's an embarrassment of riches, around here, Friends! It's time for another guest to join us in the Love and Making It series - the Holiday edition.  Everyone's story is different and yet from your comments and the posts themselves, I see universal struggles and universal hopes for our sexuality. We are in this together - It's awkward in the best possible way.  I have words to offer, words that are forming in my heart for you all - and [...]

By | December 5th, 2013|Uncategorized|7 Comments

The Crowd in the Bedroom

The Love & Making It guest essays are rocking my world. These women have written from their guts, helping us all ask hard questions and enjoy our sexuality with more honesty.  Have you read them all yet? Go here! **** Today's guest, Tara Owens, is an expert in spiritual direction, sexuality and God.  She lives in the professional and spiritual halls I want to roam.  Her words are smart and insightful. THIS IS HOW YOU MAKE SEX MATTER IN THE BIGGEST WAYS. [...]

By | December 2nd, 2013|Uncategorized|8 Comments

Naked Truth

Love and Making It is a series about wholeness and love, even more than it is about sex. Since sex is really about wholeness and love, anyway. This post contains pictures of partial nudity.  This is a simple warning. Now you may proceed as long as you are over 18-years-old. ****  **** After adultery. After years of secrets. After hard choices. There is still hope and healing. When you need a reminder that miracles are possible through love and perseverance, [...]

By | November 29th, 2013|Uncategorized|26 Comments

Making Love

"You sure do write about sex a lot." Yes. That's true, but I didn't expect this. I've never cared much either way about sex, honestly. It's not on my mind that often… not that you'd believe me with all this Love and Making It talk.  But something happened to me after my second baby was born and sex has become my yoga, my running, my self-care, my way back to loving my body and learning that my "self" is more [...]

By | November 27th, 2013|Uncategorized|6 Comments

Don’t Touch My Boobs

Friends, this post is a huge part of why I wanted to start this series in the first place - the topic here is universal and it is also secret.  My guest is a woman who rocks my world with her powerful writing, friendship, teaching, and hilarity.  Enjoy this next post in our Love and Making It Series! **** I flinch when my husband touches my boobs. I don’t know how else to tell you that except for just outright. [...]

By | November 21st, 2013|Uncategorized|18 Comments

Wild Girls Dancing

Welcome, Dearest Friends, to the next guest post in our Love & Making It series, written by Esther Emery, a woman after God's own heart.  I began stalking (aka following) Esther through twitter long before we became friends through the Story Sessions.  She fights lions and tigers and lies for the sake of her family - not just with words but with her bare hands and brave guts.  She gives me courage and has helped me find my own voice. The [...]

By | November 14th, 2013|Uncategorized|16 Comments

True Love and The Princess Bride

Princess Bride is one of the best movies in all of movie history. On this we can agree. On true love...   Westley: I told you I would always come for you. Why didn't you wait for me? Buttercup: Well... you were dead. Westley: Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while. Buttercup: I will never doubt again. Westley: There will never be a need.   I believe in true love. I believe [...]

By | November 12th, 2013|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Beauty and the Porn Beast

Welcome, Dearest Friends, to the first guest post in our Love & Making It series, written by Sarah Wheeler, a woman of valor and heart.  Through a truly awesome writing community called Story Sessions, I have gotten to know and love Sarah.  The following words are hers - about her journey with her husband through the trenches of sex and porn addiction and marriage. Read her words and let them read you. This is her story and one told with [...]

By | November 4th, 2013|Uncategorized|18 Comments

Holiday Magic (in bed)

... aka...Holiday bed. People want to be special and powerful.  We want to surprise and delight. We want to be magic. It's ok, you can admit it. We each dream of being able to access magic, because "magic" does not always mean spooky mind-bending or casting spells.  This kind of magic is not anti-God.  Magic is when time stands still.  The kind of magic we want to be a part of is when God shows up in us and [...]

By | November 1st, 2013|Uncategorized|2 Comments
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