Is being reborn

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It’s time, My Friend. It’s time for a renewed sense of wonder and connection to spring up in you. It’s time for your body and soul to feel like home. It’s time to feel more awake, satisfied, open, and passionate.

What is the Love + Making It eCourse all about?

Well, intimacy, mostly. And your body. And your marriage. And your sense of humor. And how sex can actually be medicine and dessert. How sex can be more than an obligation. And how you can feel beautiful and fulfilled NOW in THIS BODY.


It’s time to love your body.

It’s time to look forward to having sex with your husband.

It’s time to learn new ways to overcome the obstacles in your sex life.

It’s time to switch from fixing yourself to enjoying yourself.


We spend so much time, money, and energy trying to get fit, get smart, get holy, get beautiful… Get through it, Get over it, Get it out of the way.

This class is different. This class is not about getting – although you will get some. This class is about being given gifts.

You will be given gifts. The gifts of FREEDOM, SEX, BEAUTY, SAFETY, COURAGE, PLAY… you will finally own your body and sensuality in a way that allows you to give your whole self – not out of obligation or routine – but out of a bubbling, joyful, sexy desire to share.

In the body you have RIGHT NOW, you can feel beautiful and have truly great sex.

Do not let fear or busyness stop you from receiving this gift.

After years of research and in-depth conversations with nearly 1,000 women, I know this class, and the space it creates, literally changes lives and marriages… not because I am awesome {I mean, I know we will be friends} but because this way of looking at our sexuality and our bodies works.

This is not just a prescription for more intimacy; it is a new description of how all of this is meant to be – how we were designed for so much more {in bed}


Listen, I know this can be a leap of faith.

So, here’s a few words from past classmates
about how Love + Making It
changed their lives:

“I think the thing about this class that has given me the most hope is that there is no assumption that some people will never get there, which is the message often given. Here, it has always been ‘Yes you can. And here’s how. And it will be uncomfortable but keep going.’”


“He looked at me and said, ‘I’m SO glad you are taking this class. Because no matter how many times I tell you these things, I know you can’t hear them from me. I’m so glad you’ve heard them from Nicole.’ We went on to have the most amazing, connected time together ever. EVER. I’m celebrating because even though there have been high highs and low lows throughout this course, we have never had a dialogue that open about this, and I have never felt so connected to him and to my body before.”


“So even though I knew we were both so exhausted, I said to my husband, “Can we go to bed together tonight?” and when he asked why I said, “I really need to feel connected to you tonight, I really need to have sex and be held and know we’re in this together” and I was super nervous, but he didn’t shame me or question it or anything. We just put our laptops away and went to bed. And last night nothing changed with our situation, but something holy happened. I felt connected and known by my hubs in a new way. I finally got what Nicole’s been talking about when she says sex can be therapy and healing.”


“I have waited for these words for ten years. Asked the question “what in the world is sex? Why would God make it? What does it have to do with his heart??” It always seemed a separate thing from him, from relationship with him. Shocking, yes. But I’m ready to engage it. Thank you.”


“Nicole, I hope you plan on offering this regularly! My husband and I do premarital mentoring at our church and I just suggested your course as a resource for our ladies.”


“This class is epic….transformational!”


“And then after we made love last night and were laying there a realization hit me. I told him that I feel as if I am waking up from a long sleep. That my whole body has been asleep, numb, and that I feel connected to myself again. Being awake is wonderful!”


“My husband said Nicole is a genius!”


“Nicole that is a huge breakthrough. Huge. Your influence led to REAL, practical, hands-on healing.”


“I was raw. I told him what I was missing and needed. We decided to give ourselves permission to laugh in bed as we navigate our physical challenges. We are just now getting out of bed and one of his last comments was “thank you for being brave and telling me what you were feeling. I think this is a new day for us.”


“Your love and making it series is setting me free. My husband has never felt so loved and frankly I have never been more satisfied. I think this is your gift. I want you to talk about bodies and sex all day every day because your truth is seriously beautiful and deeply needed.”


Join these real women. And in a few weeks, you will have your own amazing story to tell.

If you grew up in church and all of the instructions were about how to NOT have sex, but you were never given the tools to help you LOVE sex, take this course with me.

If you love your husband, but still don’t always look forward to having sex with him, take this course.

If you want a safe community of women to talk with about sex and body challenges, take this course.

If you want to find new, fun ways to make sex passionate and hot, take this course.

If you want to turn to your husband in a few weeks and say, “Honey, I have a headache. Can we please have sex?” take this course.

If you want your faith-journey to finally include your lovemaking {in the best possible ways} take this course!

If you know your sex-life is good but there’s always room for more, take this course.


Don’t settle in this area. Please. Don’t settle. Take this journey with us.


You deserve wild, full, passionate love.




“Your love and making it series is setting me free. My husband has never felt so loved and frankly I have never been more satisfied.” 


“My husband said Nicole is a genius!”



HI! This Nicole-person is a full-time pastor at a non-denominational church in Southern California and a sex-coach with years of experience teaching classes and counseling. I’ve had the honor of being a pastor and coach to 100s of women in 3D life and 100s more in this fantastic 2D world. I’ve also been on this journey myself. I’ve experienced my own hard places and found tools that I am really grateful for and want to share with you! We can each reclaim the goodness of our bodies and have great love lives. It’s not easy, but we can do it together. I’ve seen it. Read more about Nicole’s story and how Love and Making It began.
This class is grounded in faith. Intimacy and sex are a gift from our Creator.

“We find God in the contact of our bodies, not just in the longing of our souls.”

-E & J Whitehead

Love + Making It is all about enjoying being alive. Humans are made up of dirt and the breath of God: body and spirit. Thus sex is not just dirty; it’s heavenly too. If we can talk honestly and optimistically about love and how we make it, we can create more freedom + bravery + beauty + faith in our lives {in bed and out}.

You can share as much or as little as you want. You will be able to preserve your privacy; it is a value in the community to support and share while still carefully honoring the sanctity of privacy.

I recommend being in the secret Facebook group (it’s pretty wonderful) but you can even opt out of that if you would like.

Nope. All women are welcome! It is designed with monogamous, sexually-active women in mind. In faith-communities, this usually means married. Many single women have also taken the course, as a way to educate and care for themselves, and all participants felt it was well-worth their investment.
Yes! Yes, there are. Thanks for asking!

  1. Everything shared here is confidential. I understand that you will share things with your husband as you process. When you do, do not use names.  You can just call us all “One Beautiful Girl from Class” or “One amazing woman from class”…   We will share here knowing we can trust each other.
  2. Everyone must have a sense of humor. We will be uncovering some of our deepest emotions and desires and fears.  That demands laughter.  Being brave should make you giggly.
  3. Everyone will speak respectfully. All our husbands, marriages, and situations are different. This class is about your own personal growth. We will not be speaking badly about our husbands or each others marriages.
  4. Everyone, try. You signed up. You took this chance. Now, don’t stop there. Just getting the Passionals in your inbox won’t make anything magic happen. Engage.