I write and speak on the topic of sex.  I want to be careful with the trust you have given me on this subject. I will not tell you whether you should see 50 Shades of Grey since I haven’t seen the movie yet. Only you know what is beneficial for YOU … but hopefully this will help you cultivate freedom and beauty in your own life either way. 

Here’s what I learned from reading the Fifty Shades of Grey books:

I had limited my own creativity. Most of the actual activities within the book were not appealing to me BUT a few were, and more importantly it got me thinking about how artistic and creative someone can be within their make-out sessions. 

Texture.

Music. 

Surprise. 

Sensation. 

Voicing what you want. 

Clear boundaries and room to play within those rules. 

Rather than giving thought to whether the movie should exist or if it will literally destroy a generation, give thought to your own story. You do not need to save the world. How about we first save ourselves?

Does your body need your attention? Does your spouse’s body need your attention?

Fifty Shades of Grey gives a lot of attention to bodies.  This is another thing I learned: It is especially important for those of us who’ve struggled with bodies being GOOD and BEAUTIFUL and perfectly made by a GOD YOU LOVES YOUR BODY — to intentionally focus your own loving attention on your body.

Where have you been limited in your thinking about your body?

Where have you settled for “mediocre” in making love? 

Is sex an obligation? Is it something you do to make babies? Is it something you do for attention? 

How do you move? Could you move differently?

What is your sensory experience? Could you add anything? Smells? Tastes? Varied movements? Music?

Within the healthy boundaries of your own life, how could you play?

Life is full of art. We create a masterpiece within each day by how we live. It’s easy to think of creativity starting in our heads and moving out into the items we create: blog posts, paintings, photographs, meals … BUT do not forget that your own body needs to creatively express itself. Embodiment is healthy. Have you seen a toddler dance lately? Dear Lord, they are art in motion.  

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If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know that I believe in my bones that EVERYTHING IS CONNECTED. Rather than seeing 50 Shades of Grey, spend some time looking at art and thinking about sex. You will get the benefits without the complications of the movie.

How do the paintings and photographs communicate movement or texture?
How could your body express your feelings?
Imagine what you could do.

Why does Fifty Shades turn women on? We could debate the intricacies, but most of all, it’s because it makes women actually THINK about sex as pleasurable and creative. Thinking about new possibilities {in bed} will turn you on.

So, here’s my collection of Fifty Shades of Grey inspiration for you. ENJOY!

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