How to keep a marriage

What lights a relationship on fire?  What keeps it going after fifteen years? What sets butterflies to flight in your stomach when your eyes make contact? What keeps your bodies magnetized so that the pull towards each other never weakens? The obvious answer is mutual attraction, but what is that exactly? How do we stay mutually attracted?  What's the answer to "How to keep a marriage magnetized?"   People are not permanent magnets. We do not just naturally hold onto our [...]

By | October 8th, 2014|Uncategorized|5 Comments

With my body I thee worship

I closed my eyes and spoke to you in 100 silent ways. - Rumi   Using sex as a way to temporarily satiate a craving is like gulping a fine wine or perfectly-aged scotch to quench your thirst, and then wondering why you are still thirsty and your throat has started burning.   When we are quiet and settled, we notice the profound stirrings simple physical touches wake in us: fingers intertwined, lips kissing the inside of a wrist, the bump [...]

By | October 7th, 2014|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Tickets to the sex show

As far as I know, you are not having sex so other people can watch. You do not sell tickets to the sex show in your home.  You are not trying for any awards. The camera is not panning across your taught abdomen as your spouse's equally taught abs slowly lower onto you, the light languid but grateful in its luck at caressing your skin.   When you have sex, it is not for an audience.   So, why do we [...]

By | October 6th, 2014|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Push up Bra

Has anyone ever accidentally grabbed or brushed against your breasts? (That is, if you have breasts... if you don't, have you ever accidentally grabbed or fondled or brushed against someone else's breasts?) It's happened to most everyone at some point or another.  You are in some close space and people are moving around.  Breasts stick out and hands or arms often accidentally brush against those soft bumpers.  The second after it happens, when it registers in everyone's minds that breasts have been [...]

By | October 4th, 2014|Uncategorized|2 Comments

In the Biblical Sense

Yada. Yada. Yada. I've got a little sexy etymology for you.  Ready?   And Adam knew [yada] Eve, his wife; and she conceived. Genesis 4:1   Yada is not just a fill-in word like blah-blah-blah. It's the original nudge-nudge, wink-wink. I "know" him.  Yada Yada Yada. Ever see that Seinfeld episode where they start using "yada, yada, yada" to fill in the details in a story instead of saying what really happened? George asks if you can "yada, yada, yada" [...]

By | October 3rd, 2014|Uncategorized|9 Comments

Think About Sex – Step One

Day 1: How to have good sex? = Think about sex. I don't mean just "think about sex" like a soda erupting; shaking it up and then shooting sticky thoughts all over the place. (Those cans are small but they manage to cover everything when they explode. The same goes for sexual thoughts.)  No, no. I mean, think about sex in very specific ways: disciplined, new, brave ways. First of all: Who do you want to want to have sex [...]

By | October 2nd, 2014|Uncategorized|8 Comments

31 Days of Love and Making It

Hey Friends! All throughout October I am participating in the Write 31 Days blogging challenge. For 31 days straight I will be writing daily on: LOVE & MAKING IT. If you are new here, I often talk about Beauty and Sex, Bravery and New Perspectives. My passion is to talk about passion - the lack or the abundance - and if we can have 31 straight days of inspiration and conversation around sex... then EVERYONE WINS! ***** {We are up [...]

By | October 1st, 2014|Uncategorized|8 Comments

Wives Submit to Your Husbands

Submission. It's a dirty word to some.  It's a holy word to others. but can I tell you something...? I have found new life in it. Let me explain. ***** "Wives, it should be no different with your husbands. Submit to them as you do to the Lord." - Ephesians 5 Submit. ^^That word burns^^ It burns because it seems to go against every other thing I know about our freedom.  Jesus is supposed to bring a new kind of [...]

By | April 1st, 2014|Uncategorized|12 Comments

One Word Rebel

{{New LOVE and MAKING IT course now open for registration! GET THE SCOOP HERE!}} ***** v. Rebel This one’s for the good kids. The good girls with their modest shirts and shorts under skirts.  The good boys with their zipped pants and respectful words. The ones who bent over backwards to save another. Did their homework. Did all the group projects themselves. Said no to drugs and yes to Jesus. Or mostly no to drugs and mostly yes to Jesus. [...]

By | March 26th, 2014|Uncategorized|1 Comment

Love and Making It in Spring

Love and Making It in Spring session is over... but we have something hot coming this summer. *****   Love and Making It - All Women - July 1st {single, married, don't matter} Love and Making It - For Couples - June 21st {for both partners to do together} ***** Listen. We are bombarded with sights and sounds that tell us we are just not good enough and neither is our spouse. Let's rebel against all of those messages together. [...]

By | March 19th, 2014|Uncategorized|2 Comments
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